Dating Tips - How to Overcome
Your Fear of Rejection and Deal With It!
By Angela Tay
In the dating game, nobody likes to be
rejected. When that happens, it makes one feel really down and the first
thing that most people would do is to find fault with themselves. I fully
understand how upsetting it can be when you finally plucked the courage
to express how you feel, only to get an answer that flatly says "Sorry,
you are rejected"!
That's why people who have experienced
rejection in dating often feel uncomfortable to date again after their
first few attempts. They lose confidence in themselves and breed negative
thoughts about even starting any relationship. They might even suffer from
low esteem eventually.
But if you look at it from another point
of view, rejection is just a numbers game. Just like when you walk into
a furniture store to buy a dining table, you may not set your eyes on the
first one that you see. You will most likely walk around and compare the
sizes and prices of different tables. You may also have a preference for
a round table instead of a square one. See what I mean?
Rejection is often just a selection process.
You rejected the square dining table and eventually bought the round one
because it fits nicely into your dining area. For someone else though,
the square one may be perfect for them! Same goes for the dating game.
You may reject someone because they are not tall enough for you, but someone
else may reject you because you are too tall for them!
Rejection is often not personal. It's wise
to learn how to deal with it more positively. It is not an opportunity
for self-pity, but rather be positive, reflect and self-examine on the
reasons why you are rejected. Sometimes, the reasons do not lie with you,
why make yourself sad over it! If you don't welcome rejection, you will
tread on it over and over again subconsciously. But when you learn how
to let go and move on, only then you will untie the knot in your heart
and allow someone else to come in.
Handling rejection requires an immediate
adjustment in attitude. If the person doesn't return your interest, you
may feel depressed initially, but after a day, snap out of it and move
on! Feeling sorry for yourself means you have succumbed to the fear of
rejection, and defeated your goal of overcoming it.
Love and dating is a complex process. If
it is not meant to be, respect the other person's wishes graciously. It's
just part and parcel of life's selection process. There is absolutely nothing
wrong with you, it just means both of you are not meant to be a couple,
that's all. Don't take rejections too personally but always deal with it
rationally and you will be a much happier person.
Angela is an active love coach in her community
and a writer for a wedding blog.
She shares more tips about love and dating
at http://yourloveangel.blogspot.com
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